TommyCarey
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We all know that separation of church and state is there for a reason, but so is the separation of personal and business life! You can't mingle the two and still be super successful online, because it's the same as adding oil to water, they don't go well together. Your personal life should stay personal and that means you should be with your family and friends while you're home or out an about. Your business life should stay in the office or wherever you work, and that's it, you shouldn't bring home any work anger or stress because that will hurt your personal life over time.
Working from home is another topic all together because your home is your office. You will need to have a room that is dedicated to work, and only work, so everyone knows that you're working when you're there. I have a desk in my basement, in a little cornered out area that is perfect for my office, and my family knows not to bother me if I'm over there working. They will come down and let me know when lunch or dinner is ready, and they'll also come down to let me know we're leaving in 30 minutes because I tend to forget personal schedules when I'm in work mode lol 
In this discussion I'll be going over why you should separate your personal and business life. There's no guide to show you exactly what you should do, but here are a few things you should try:
Leave your business at work
When you have your own office, at home or at a physical location outside of your house, you will need to keep all business there. This means you need to turn off you work phone, or let everyone know to never contact you after you leave, so that you will truly leave everything there. You will not want to bring a laptop home with you because this will encourage you to get online and fix anything that may have broken. You should have plans in place to go into effect when something breaks, which will help you keep your work at your actually business.
Keep personal drama at home
When you're fighting with a loved one, like a girlfriend or husband, you won't want to bring that negativity to work with you because it will cause friction within the work place. Your work life will be less productive, and you might actually cause other people to be less productive because of your negativity that day. People won't want to work with you because of your negative attitude, which could actually lead to your release from the company and now you're really going to have some personal drama when you tell your significant other you don't have any source of income! Play it safe, keep the drama at home, and everyone will thank you for it by not arguing with you at work lol.
Personal life in a business setting decreases productivity
Like I mentioned above, personal problems aren't a great thing in an office setting because it will decrease your productivity. You might be on the phone all the time to fix the problem, which reduces the amount of work you actually get done at the office, and will hurt your goals or profits. If you bring your personal life to work with you, it better be a single photograph of your family and that's it lol. You won't want to load your desk up with tons of pictures, because you could actually get home sick and want to leave sooner than your suppose to, which will kill your productivity due to you being distant when working.
Business life brought home can hurt relationships
If you don't finish your work, it doesn't mean you should bring it home, mainly because you could hurt your relationship due to your partner thinking you work too much. You may think your partner is over reacting when they tell you that you're working too much, but one small task to finish at home could turn into two small things, and before you know it you just worked through dinner and the kids are going to bed. I've actually done this a few times, but my wife understands that I don't have a set 9 to 5 schedule and I have to finish my work when it comes in. She knows that when I'm writing content for clients, I have to get it done well, or I could get some negative reviews that hurt my future sales. I lucked out with my lady, but some people doing that same thing as I am aren't as lucky. So, try to leave work at your office and hang out with your family and friends when you can.
In conclusion
Separating work and personal lives can be difficult if you do everything on your own as a freelancer or a solo business owner. Even though it's difficult, you need to work on the process of separating the two so everyone is happy, not just you lol. You don't want to bring drama to work and you don't want to bring work home, because that will cause the drama that you might bring with you when you go to the office. It's a harsh circle of events that is hard to escape once it starts, so try to avoid it at all costs if you can
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Thanks!
Tommy Carey
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I once had a retail job and in the break room (where you had to clock in to start your day and be paid for it) was a sign posted to the wall that basically said something along the lines of "Leave your problems at the door". But of course it never worked, since there are those select few in the workplace that just loves to gossip -- about everything.
Whenever I work a day job, whether it is seasonal, part time or even full time I never talk about my life outside of the workplace because it is no one's business. I do not want co-workers to know me other than for working at the same place they do. Sometimes people may see this as being rude, but I practice the whole "leave your work at work, leave your stuff from home at home". The day will go by much more smoothly if no one knows you other than from your workplace.
Practicing the "leave work at work, or leave home at home" can eliminate a lot of potential issues that could occur for you. People are very nosy these days, and if they want to find more about you they will on their own terms. So my motto: Don't bring work to home, and dont bring home to work. :D
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Exactly.
There aren't many people like you out there who work with others in close proximity. Before I started working online I was in a 9 to 5 job at a banquet hall and worked with over 40 people every single day. I would talk with all the servers, bartenders, management, coordinators, general managers, and even the people who the party was for. If just one person was stressed out about their personal life and brought that to work, it would sometimes spread to the rest of the employees and the overall feel of the room would change because of other people getting annoyed by the one person bringing their personal problems to work.
I'm like you, I leave my personal problems at home and my work stays at work. The only problem now is that I work from home and it's tougher for me to do this lol. Over the past few years, I've gotten better at this because I'll turn off my work phones and close my laptop so I can hang out with my family. The one good thing is that my family doesn't really understand what I do, even if I sit them down and explain everything, which helps me keep business and personal life separate since they don't understand it anyway lol :D
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