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How do you critisize without hurting feelings?

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    How do you critisize without hurting feelings?

    Is there an easy way to critisize something about another person, such as a behavior, without sounding evil or hurting the other person's feelings?

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    Savonne

    Savonne

    Try to tell the other person how much you appreciate all their hard work. This will ease the pain of the criticism.
    11 years ago

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    angie828

    angie828

    Just let them know that you care about them but you have a concern and then share it with them.
    11 years ago

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    egnesselinks

    egnesselinks

    I always fail in this situation. I always end up hurting the other person while criticizing him/her for something.
    10 years ago

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    Topseoservice

    Topseoservice

    Criticizing is good actually even if it hurts. If that person is wise, he will take that as lesson.
    10 years ago

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    jellyfishonline

    jellyfishonline

    Critics only improve others but criticism must be done with a lot of caution as you might hurt the subject. Each situation has to be dealt differently in this regard, I also fail each time on this. Every time I criticize someone, I end up spoiling it for myself.
    10 years ago

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    cognizant

    cognizant

    Talk in a very calm and soothing voice while criticizing, the other person will know that you are doing it for his good.
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    WinnersPBN

    WinnersPBN

    When you are criticizing someone, always keep your tone low and the person does not get hurt by you but your words, so do not care too much about it, it is our duty to always tell the truth.
    10 years ago

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    Jackson

    Jackson

    Shouldn't you be cautious though, especially with family? You can be so truthful that it hurts someone. Maybe you need to temper the truth with kindness.
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    BatmanWayne

    BatmanWayne

    First of all, you and the person that you will criticize have to be mature enough to: You have to be mature enough to criticize and tell the truth but only wanting to help the other person to be better. And the other person have to be mature enough to trust in you and not be alluded because it is for his/her own good, you have to be kind with the other person, remember: It have to be a constructive criticism and not destructive criticism!
    9 years ago

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    arachnophobik

    arachnophobik

    Always start off with a compliment, because people love compliments, even if it isn't real. Start off with a compliment about how much you like this person or how much you appreciate his/her work, then just say that "but there's a bit of something I would like to talk to you about.. I feel like--" and on you go with whatever it is you want to say. Usually I've found that they take it more lightly and seriously when I do that.
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    wallet

    wallet

    I don't think there is an easy way to criticize something about another person, no matter on how you put it in its soul that person would feel negatively touched. No matter on how many compliments you make to a person if you will criticize in any way it will be taken as an offend.
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    joegirl

    joegirl

    First rule is never to criticize publicly. Always start by outlining the great qualities of this person and how they impressed you with the completion of a recent project. This removes any form of initial resentment at being criticized. Then in a gentle tone, advise on how they can better improve and reasons why. Be sure to let know the rewards/benefits/value of this adjustment.
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    Barida

    Barida

    Teaching them with love is the right way to go about it. I mean, if you can explain the reason that made such actions and behaviours such a bad thing, then you're halfway to making them see reasons with the message you're trying to pass across.
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    overcast

    overcast

    I just post about how I have done things differently. And I don't give much opinion about it. I tend to avoid criticism of people and the things around. That way I don't have to bother about hurting feelings of people. It's always better to mind what we do in that case. I think world has gone a lot sensitive in that case. And we have to adjust with the changing world in this context.
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